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Tim Gunn will be at Cincinnati’s Aronoff Theater on January 14th for a night of fun and insight with SmartTalk Connected Conversations.   SmartTalk has been bringing women together to experience the power of the spoken word since 1991. In the past several years, SmartTalk has grown into one of the most powerful and entertaining live events in the nation. The core mission of SmartTalk stems from the idea that women are inspired by the heart and voice of other remarkable women. In fact, we became more than just a lecture series but a series of connected conversations. These thoughts, stories and pieces of advice shared face to face create invaluable connected conversations that truly renew, enrich and uplift the spirit.

You have a chance to win tickets to see Tim Gunn!  Simply leave a comment and let us know you want to see Tim!  A name will be drawn at random, and the winner will receive two tickets to attend the show.  Good luck!

Cincinnati is gearing up for its 2012 season with some of the biggest names in show business.  Smart Talk Connected Conversations is bringing the above noted speakers to the Aronoff from January through May 2012.  What could be better than hearing fabulous celebs sharing their stories with you and then a personal meet and greet photo opportunity?  How about discounted tickets?!  Simply use the code SB2012 when purchasing tickets to receive your tickets at VIP pricing.  Join us January through May for the hottest ticket in Cincinnati.

Generation X, commonly abbreviated to Gen X, is the generation born after the Western post World War II baby boom ended. While there is no universally agreed upon time frame, the term generally includes people born in the 1960s through the late ’70s. Gen X’ers have proven to behave differently than any other generation in history in that almost half of them are opting to be childless. About 43% of Gen X women have no children.  This is largely attributed to women delving into their careers. One difference between the 1950s housewife and a 2011 career girl is that women don’t need to “couple up” in order to survive.  In many instances, women are earning far more than their male counterparts.  But this doesn’t come without a price.  Because of 60 hour work weeks and more often than not, crushing student loan debt, women barely have enough time to take care of themselves, let alone other human beings.  Families are certainly shrinking in size, and with 43% of our Gen X’ers without children, we shall surely see the effects of this in our society in 10 years.  Interesting!  Did you opt for career of children?  Or both?

Bristol Palin has been making the Internet rounds these days with her new face.  At 20 years old, it seemed a facelift was improbable.  However, it was clearly evident that something different was going on with her face.

Bristol has addressed the issue by stating she didn’t have plastic surgery, but rather corrective jaw surgery.  Feeling that her former jaw alignment made her chin appear round, her new jaw surgery aligned her jaw correctly, and made her chin much more pronounced.

Bristol says she loves her new face, claiming it makes her look older, and has less appearance of the baby chub in her face.  This is an example of very good “work”.  It’s not overly pronounced , and truly does give her face a symmetrical look.  Just when I thought this was the hottest thing in Alaska, Miss Palin makes us think twice.  Very nicely done, girlfriend.

How sexy is your bedroom? Flannel comforters, over-sized tee-shirts and photos of your kids, or even worse, your parents, sitting on a nearby nightstand  does not make for a sexy bedroom.  Think ultra plush, think soft and sexy.  Ladies, be kind to your men and don’t make them sleep in the land of precious with your Laura Ashley floral-overload bedroom.  Sex it up, sister.  Be sure to equip your room with privacy….not having a lock on your bedroom door is a major no-no.  Take an assessment…how sexy is your bedroom?

The stars of the Discovery Channel’s wildly popular, Deadliest Catch, will be at the Aronoff in Cincinnati on May 9th.  In this rare, live, interactive event, the Bering Sea’s toughest crew swap stories as they take the audience through some of the roughest situations the captain and crew have ever had to face on the high seas. From the treacherous weather and crew conflicts, to the triumphs of the team, Captain Sig and Johnathan and Andy Hillstrand bring the intimate world of crab fishing to a live audience.

“Deadliest Catch” was released to the public in 2005 and has been going strong ever since, making it one of the most popular shows in Discovery Channel history.  For the first time, fans across the country have a chance to hear the stories behind the show, view never before seen video, and partake in a question and answer session with members of the cast of “Deadliest Catch.” Season seven will debut in the spring of 2011. For more information on the Captains, the tour, & much more, check out  www.thecaptainstour.com.

Don’t miss  your chance to see Sig and the Hillstrand brothers in Cincinnati.  We will be offering free tickets in a random drawing.  Just leave a comment and let us know you want to see the stars of the Deadliest Catch.  Good luck! (Winners will be chosen 05/02/2011).

We learn so much from our friends.  You gain so much more…more of everything… insight, knowledge, humor, empathy, etc., by connecting to others.  Enter my friend, Jennifer, from across the pond.  Manchester, specifically.  Her story is amazing!  Jennifer has the kind of Eat- Pray-Love courage, the Under-The-Tuscan-Sun type of courage that inspires you and makes you connect to her instantly.  Jennifer writes a wildy successful blog about the trials and tribulations of a girl who loves her life.  So connect to Jennifer through her journey.  Start here.  Let’s meet Jennifer.  

Who she is:   My name is Jennifer Grace Cook and in August of 2010 I launched my personal blog, An American Girl’s Guide to a Noble Manchester. A Noble Manchester is located at www.anoblemanchester.com

Why she started the blog

I am a 44 year-old screenwriter from Los Angeles and after 20 years in the entertainment industry I woke up one morning to discover that not only was I beaten down by the business but that I was heading straight into early onset menopaul.  At this young age I was experiencing all the signs of menopause, the hot flashes, irregular menstrual cycle, heart palpitations, sleep disruption. While surprising to my OBGYN it’s not unheard of for women my age to experience it and my family history suggested a predisposition to early onset, but I was absolutely blindsided. I was just learning to love the idea of being fabulous and 40.

Now, for me it wasn’t just a matter of can I have a baby? It was can I be in a loving relationship? Can I love and be loved by the kind of man I would want to have a baby with?  What I realized was that I had spent my 20s and 30s creating a career and a lifestyle and I was learning how to be in healthy, loving and empowering relationships but I was having trouble navigating between career and personal life. What I understood was, in an effort to get the things I wanted in my career, I couldn’t be vulnerable anymore. I had trained that quality out of myself, I was a cold and inaccessible woman, and so my ambition was counter intuitive to a healthy personal life. I had to find a way to change, to allow myself to be vulnerable to allow myself to be available to love.

I was living a third of the life I was capable of living and I knew I had to change. So I decided to force myself into a vulnerable place. I decided to combine my personal life with my career and I took an enormous 6-month risk and moved from LA to Manchester, England where I am documenting, via blog, my search for noble love and nobility of character. My belief is when Irecognize it in others, kindness, generosity, integrity, inspiration and passion; all the things that make up a noble character, those qualities will also become apparent in me. I endeavor to a lead with an authenticity, a purity, a kind of humanity that will then make me attractive to the kind of man I want to be with, the kind of man I’d want to raise a child with.

The journey across the pond

Living in England feels like something of a miracle. Even though we have similar social structures and so much of American culture, our entertainment etc dominates over here I’m suddenly paying very close attention to the experiences and people I encounter. So the miracle is that I pay attention to everything. People, interactions, and I engage in a very open way, without any kind of preconceived notion. I’m relying solely upon my gut.

It’s forcing a new perspective. I do this thing where, while writing, when I feel stuck, when I know I’m not exploring the whole possibility, what I’ll do is literally get up and stand on the kitchen table, or the desk or wherever I am and just take a look around the room. I feel like you have to constantly invite yourself to look at things from another angle. And so when you ask what it’s like to cross the pond, it 

And being here, well I am different than I thought I would be. England is actually kind of what I thought it would be, not a lot of surprises. But I am different. I’m not as smooth as I thought I would be. I stumble a lot, I’m off balance – quite literally, the cobblestones are hard to walk on and also figuratively, which is exactly what I intended. And my life lessons are happening quickly. I feel like I’m learning at that increased rate that babies learn at.

Americans are a very powerful breed and America became America in just over 200 years. That is impressive, all that has been built; the cities, the culture. Americans are forthright and ambitious and dynamic and we make our presence known. We have no trouble selling ourselves or finding the initiative or gumption to seize the day. So as an American I have that in me, that indomitable vision.

Since I came on this journey I often hear, “You are so brave.” And I don’t feel brave at all. I just feel like it had to be done. I had to change and I wanted to do it in this kind of large way. But I think there is a delicacy that I lack, that Americans lack.  It’s a delicacy that I’ve learned is actually necessary. The truth is, what I see is that America is about ‘result’ and England (and Europe to a large degree) is about ‘process.’ And the process sometimes requires delicacy and finesse. Neither of which are my “go to attributes.” So my largest lessons have been how to communicate with people in an authentic and sensitive way. How to initiate and fortify genuine friendships without expectation. How to just give. How to make a relevant and valued contribution. And all of this can be a little clunky. But I’ve become patient with myself and I’m paying attention, so my growth is quite rapid and I feel like the work I’m doing is so very important.

My writing is growing as well, the blog and journey began as a search for a man and it has evolved into a holistic willingness to see nobility in others. The lessons I’m sharing I think are valuable. And I am lucky that I’ve been able to come and do this, that I have the support and ability to take this time to revolutionize myself in this rather comprehensive and significant way.

Men, Foreign and American Men and Friends

Initially when I launched the blog here in Manchester, which was in January; content from August through December told the story of who I was and how I came to the decision to come to Manchester, but when I launched in January I had some local and regional press so I got a number of e-mails from men who wanted to date me. And I knew that the man I was looking for, the man I would end up with wasn’t going to be one of the men who contacted me straight out of the gate. I knew that I had a kind of spiritual connection to him and I had a journey to go on so finding him would probably happen at the end of it or pretty close to the end because I wasn’t ready for him just yet. I knew he wasn’t going to be the first guy who sent me an e-mail on day one.

And I learned pretty quickly that those men who contacted me had their own set of motives. A couple of them were married, one was interested in the attention I was getting in the press, another was caught up in the novelty of it all. These were not the guys I wanted to be on this journey with. And within a few weeks I decided I wouldn’t meet men who contacted me via the blog. This process is

Now men are men. Which really means they are people first and foremost. They have the same emotional capacity and same emotional needs as women, they just communicate differently. And every man I’ve ever known is different in that way. Some are super mushy and highly articulate when it comes to expressing themselves and some just can’t be bothered or would rather drive a hot poker through their forehead than talk about how they feel. Men are men no matter where you are. There is absolutely an English reserve, but a lot more sex and nudity, by the way, female and male, on TV, which is still a little confusing despite he reserve. I’ve noticed the people in Manchester are far more open than those in London. And also despite the reserve, because I’m so forthcoming people tend to just roll with it. I’ll talk about anything, again learning about delicacy, but I think my openness creates space for others, men and women to maybe abandon that reserve a bit. There are social constructs that are a little different here. Most people only date one person at a time and people tend to get into relationships quickly here. Marriage is not the end game target that it is in America. Often couples have children together and never marry. That is pretty common here in the UK. And they don’t refer to each other as a “girlfriend” or “boyfriend,” it’s “my partner” which was kind of confusing for me at first because in America gay couples make reference to their “partner”. I thought at first everyone was gay. It’s been funny learning those little nuances.

I think men and women can be friends easier here. And when I watch couples, particularly couples in their 20s they seem to be at such ease with one another, it’s a certain kind of respect and maturity, which is hard to explain. Maybe it’s that there’s not so much a tug of war between them. Men are men in the relationship and women are the women in the relationship and there’s not any kind of confusion that I think American men and women have about roles. I’m hoping to take home a few pointers on this particular subject, because I think we, Americans, have some learning to do in this area.

Where do you see yourself in five years

Well, I will be at the tail end of my 40s in five years, which I suppose will be a significant moment I think and I see myself living in a big city. I am a city girl. I see myself in a committed loving relationship that I will feel such gratitude for because it’s taken me some time to get to the place where I really wanted that or could be good at it. I don’t anticipate or desire perfection, because that’s just no fun. I’m excited to learn what the challenges will be in that relationship. I see myself gracefully working through the challenges. I see family. And maybe children, maybe not but family definitely, and family meaning a collaborative, an effort between my husband/partner, my parents, my immediate family, my friends all pursuing and supported in a common goal of living a good life. An inspired life.

Goals/aspirations?

I want to write a book. And then I want to write another book and then I want to write a couple more books after that just for good measure. Just so I know that the first two books weren’t a fluke and a lucky follow up to the fluke. I want to create a home that’s a sanctuary for those people I love, a place filled with lots of laughter and generosity and compassion, and inspiration. I want to read all

What does happiness mean to you

Happiness to me is the freedom to keep growing. No matter the environment, with family, with friends, in business. And to explain this I will tell you, I’m obsessed tulips. I’m not sure why because I grew up in south Florida and tulips won’t grow there, too hot. But I have for as long as I can remember simply adored them. And I am constantly buying tulips for myself. All spring long, tulips, tulips, tulips. They have a certain grace. They are a highly responsive and sensitive flower. When you put them in water, a friend once told me to always put a penny in the water with them and the tulips would straighten right up. There’s some kind of chemical reaction to the copper in the water and they just respond to the stimuli. And tulips actually continue to grow. They get taller and longer after they’re cut. And you can trim their stems, cut them, and they will grow. They are challenged and they stretch, they thrive. The freedom to do that, being in the environment that will encourage that; that makes me happy, that makes me grateful.

“I’ve never really viewed myself as particularly talented.  Where I excel is ridiculous, sickening work ethic.  While the other guy is sleeping, I’m working.  While the other guy is eating, I’m working”. …Will Smith’s insight to his success.

Ryan Reynolds is picking up the title of Sexiest Man Alive 2010 on the cover of People magazine.  Since “sexy” is relative to the eye of the beholder, it may be unfair to call him the sexiest man alive, but Ryan certainly does warrant a “sexier than most” man alive award.  Warranted, and well-deserved!  Ryan joins the ranks of Hollywood heart throbs who have been crowned with the title in the past, i.e, Johnny Depp, George Clooney, Brad Pitt, Tom Cruise, Harry Hamlin (yes!), Harrison Ford (so yes!), amongst many gorgeous-faced others.  Ryan Reynolds in 2010…do you agree or disagree?

The majority reason that most women know about the movie Rocky IV…the drop-dead-gorgeous Dolph Lundgren aka Ivan Drago.

Dolph turns 53 today, and the boy is rocking 53 like nobody’s business! Living proof that it just keeps getting better and better.